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Parentification & Healing from the Trauma of Growing Up too Soon

The term ‘parentification’ was first coined by Spark in (1973).  It describes a common component of relationships whereby parental characteristics/responsibilities are projected onto an individual; namely a child or young person. Within the parent-child relationship, this process often takes place when children are assigned functional responsibilities, such as shopping, paying bills, cooking meals for the family, and taking care of the general logistics of running a household.  This is known as ‘Instrumental Parentification’. This is commonly observed in family systems within which one or both parents are incapacitated in such a way or are unable to fulfil these responsibilities.  This may be due to factors such as: Illness living beyond their means substance misuse having to work in order to keep the family financially afloat working to support with the up keep of mortgage payments they did not choose Ironically, this is believed to be healthy for the child/young adult as he or she begins to see the potential for him or herself in an adult role. However, when the responsibilities become too overwhelming, or when the child/young person feels obligated to take on the adult position (in order to maintain a balance in the family system) ‘parentification’ can become

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What is ‘Imposter Syndrome’?

I would describe it as chronic feelings of inadequacy, incompetence and fraudulence, despite objective success. For some of my clients, starting a new role has triggered an episode. However, imposter syndrome affects everyone, from the most successful CEO to a college starter. In fact, actual ability and achievements are irrelevant.  Driven personalities and those at the top of the ladder are just as vulnerable to imposter syndrome as I have recently found. Have you experienced pressure perhaps at college or at work when delivering a presentation and felt sure that you were about to embarrass yourself ? Or even if you didn’t embarrass yourself and excelled, you believed that you had fooled everyone yet again and your success is attributed to luck or a fluke; and that one day soon, you will be found out?’ Do you seek for validation in authority figures such as a boss or family member and give them the power to dictate whether you are successful or not? Imposter syndrome is frequently associated with trait anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), and social anxiety disorder. So, what is the difference between ‘Imposter Syndrome’ and ‘Self Doubt’? There’s nothing wrong with occasional self-doubt. Most people feel like

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What is Adult ADHD?

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a behavioural disorder that includes symptoms such as inattentiveness, hyperactivity and impulsiveness. Individuals with ADHD may also have additional problems, such as sleep and anxiety disorders. Adults with ADHD may also have problems with relationships or social interaction. Here are a some of the signs & symptoms you may be experiencing if you are struggling with ADHD … Do you toss and turn or are lying awake at night? Are you preoccupied with worry? May be your anxious about specific (or all) aspects of your life? Are you inattentive at work, and find yourself forgetting things? Are you easily distracted and struggle to stay on track? Perhaps you struggle with prioritising work that needs to be completed on time or to a deadline? You may struggle with sitting still and find yourself interrupting conversations & speaking out of turn? Here’s what those who struggle with ADHD say they want instead … To feel calmer and able to live life at a more relaxed pace To feel more in control of themselves and the different parts of their life To regain control over their impulsive actions To feel they are able to structure their day

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What is Eye Movement Desensitisations and Reprocessing (EMDR)?

Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR): is a psychotherapy treatment that was originally designed to alleviate the distress associated with traumatic memories. The therapist, together with the client, will identify the target memories to be worked with and in what order. At this stage in the process the therapist further supports the client with identifying how a particular memory has impacted them through exploring the client's negative belief system. An exploration then takes place of how that memory has impacted their self belief. What they would prefer to believe about themselves in that particular memory and how through future templates they'd like to behave differently. Cognitive Interweaves or Inner Child reprocessing will often be used within a client's reprocessing journey, where clients feel let down in their own experience of being parented. The most widely used technique is 'Parks Inner Child Therapy'; where clients will be supported with parenting the 'inner conflicted' child ego state of their vulnerable self. Note: For more info on Parks Inner Child Therapy take a look at the Therapies Offered section of this website. During EMDR therapy the therapist will support the client to explore emotionally disturbing material, as described above, while supporting the client

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